CORE VALUES

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Our core values shape the life we live, one choice at a time. If you are interested in digging deeper into what LM is about, this is a great place to start.

FORGIVENESS AND BOUNDARIES

To thrive in life, forgiveness is essential and so are boundaries. It's very difficult to live a healthy life in the way that God designed if you aren't good at forgiving and creating boundaries.

If you are divorced, forgiveness is necessary there, too. Until you forgive your past spouse and take ownership for your part in what went wrong, a new beginning can not properly take place. You will harbor bitterness and resentment even if it's subconsciously.

In a new relationship? Your current partner doesn't deserve your past baggage...and neither do you. It wont be instant, but make today the day that you start moving forward in freedom and light.

INDIVIDUALITY


Being in a marriage is tough. It's work. It requires selflessness. But, sometimes being selfish is exactly what the doctor ordered. When you positively develop who you are as an individual, it allows you to be a better self for your future family and your future.

Give your partner the same. Have they been dying to join a book club? Missing their Saturday golf? Wishing for a morning run? Be the person that motivates them to cultivate their individuality.

In the same respect, who you are as an individual may need some serious work. You may need to take a look at your heart and the individual you currently are. Talking to someone you shouldn't? Diving into temptations your spouse is clueless about? Still angry over things that happened years ago? Take ownership and fix it. It's never too late to be a better individual for yourself or for your future.

Regardless of your relationship status: take time for you and your individuality.

 DATING

Sometimes in relationships, we can spend days (okay, sometimes months) feeling like we are stuck in a game of tug-of-war. Finding time to date can be difficult...especially if you are in a season where the last thing you want to do is spend time with your partner. However, if you had one last date between the two of you...I have a feeling you would respond differently.

I have a feeling you would get off your damn phone. You would stop complaining about your life, your selfish desires, everything your spouse does wrong or your unresolved past. I bet you would focus on the other person and how you could better love them in the moment. Chances are, this is exactly how you acted in the beginning. Get back to that! There will be opportunities to hash out all the other stuff, so don't be scared to find value in dating again.

Single? Date yourself. I promise, you won't regret it.

4 WALLS FAMILY FIRST

I am passionate about putting "4 Walls Family First".

This is something many couples in blended families or co-parenting relationships struggle with. It's daunting to raise kids in two or three different homes. Add in-law and step-relatives to the mix, and it can be a hot mess. Don't become the parent that puts more energy into attempting to control what is taking place outside of your four walls than you do at creating a thriving environment within your own. Clear as mud, right? Let me try to clarify:

You can't control what happens when your kids aren't with you. Instead, focus on who you are to your children when they are with you.

Show them passion.
Show them grace.
Show them your core values.
Show them unconditional love.
Show them hard work.
Show them humility.

You have these blessings in your home for only so long before they have their own four walls -- make some memories. 

*This also applies to those who are single or without kiddos. You don't always have to be the one(s) catering to what others are expecting of you. Its okay to say "no" and put your home first, too.


What are some of your core values?







note: If you are concerned about situations occurring when your children't aren't with you, take action. But, attempt to do so in a way that protects your children and their mental health when they are with you as much as you can. 

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