Gals Helping Gals: Galentines + Giving Back


I had the honor of hosting a giveback event for Last Marriages on February 10th. A group of readers and I cozied up in my home and drank wine from Traveling Vineyard. We were supposed to be learning about the wine as well, but I'm not sure we learned anything other than -- that stuff is good  and buffalo chicken dip pretty much pairs well with it all, haha!! We each brought items to donate to the Elkhart County Jail Ministry and wrote out a handful of cards to the Cincinnati Children's Hospital. 


Together we collected over two dozen pairs of underwear, four dozen pairs of socks and almost $100 in gift cards that the ministry will give to inmates upon release. 


I wish I could tell you that I confidently planned this event with no reservations...but that would be a lie! 




Two nights before I texted my friend Rachel. I had anxiety because our floors still aren't finished (a project we have been putting off for almost two years) and we still have old 1960's interior doors up. Our small bathroom still needs remodeled.  As she reminded me that literally no one cares about the interior of my home, I had a moment of conviction: Satan was getting to me. It may sound dramatic, but it's true. He knows when you are doing something positive -- don't think for a second that he won't try to sabotage your confidence in it. God doesn't care about what home improvement projects have passed me by. But, He does care about the discipleship opportunities I let pass by. The times when He's pushing me to say "yes" and I choose "no". 

Do you ever have those moments? Where you look back and wonder where that anxiety even came from? I have hosted dozens of times before with the slightest care that my humble abode is still a "remodel in progress". Yet here I was...less than 48 hours away from a giveback event that I put so much of my heart in while having a mini panic attack.

As I sat in my house looking around at the metal chairs some guests would have to sit in, I really had to stop and say "thank you" to God. The very women this event was for didn't have a place like mine to go to sleep in that night. My house in its current state is one of the nicest places I've ever lived. I have a healthy body that was able to grocery shop, prepare food, and clean my home beforehand. Most of all, I have to thank Him that I live in a community of women who is striving to improve Michiana for everyone. 

Here are some of those amazing women working to make
Michiana better! 

I don't know who this post is for but hear me loud and clear: The times you feel the least qualified are the times you need to take the biggest leap. On the other side of fear lies the person you were created to be...the changes you were born to make. When you are thinking you can't? That is absolutely when you CAN. 

We had two doulas in attendance...which meant lots of talk about 
birth, empowerment, and mamahood! 

I think one of my favorite moments of the afternoon was when a woman told me it was one of the only events she had attended alone since having kids. I was so proud of her for taking time out of her busy life for her community and for herself. It reminded me even more of how often I need to focus on what I can do, instead of what I can't do. 


A big thank you again to Shelby for taking the time to teach us all about wine and laughing. She sent me the wine list beforehand as well as menu ideas for pairings which made meal prep a breeze! 



An additional thank you to Tabitha who came over early to help prep as well as vendors who donated items for the raffle! 



I am inspired by each of you who attended Gals Helping Gals + to those who dropped off donations that couldn't attend. As always, I couldn't do half of what I do without my handsome, giving husband who works hard behind the scenes to help. 

If you would like to be involved in the next Gals Helping Gals event, please sign up for the Last Marriages newsletter :) 

-- Cayla



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